The Emotional Parenting Challenge 63% of Parents Struggle With

For many parents, helping their child navigate the stormy seas of anger can feel like unfamiliar territory. A recent C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital National Poll on Children’s Health reveals that while most parents feel they’re somewhat equipped to help their child manage anger and frustration, only 28% feel confident they truly have it figured out.

The Ripple Effect of Parental Influence

Parents often acknowledge their own behavior as part of the puzzle. Over half admit they sometimes model less-than-ideal ways to cope with anger. Yet, the same poll shows that resources to support parents are surprisingly underutilized: 30% of parents report they haven’t sought advice or information from family, school staff, healthcare providers, or mental health professionals.

Schools play a pivotal role, with 62% of parents noting that teachers or counselors provide anger-management support to kids. However, less than half of parents report receiving similar resources tailored to help them manage these emotions at home.

Coping Methods

When it comes to tackling anger head-on, parents use a variety of strategies, from encouraging children to “cool off” (68%) or talk about their feelings (58%) to suggesting quiet time (53%). Boys are slightly more likely to be encouraged to channel their anger through physical outlets like sports or play (21% vs. 13% for girls), but other methods remain consistent regardless of gender.

Beyond immediate anger management, many parents work to reduce frustration triggers. Ensuring adequate sleep (67%), identifying potential stressors (52%), and balancing schedules (26%) are just some of the proactive measures taken.

What About the Kids Who Struggle Most?

For 14% of parents, anger feels like a persistent challenge, with children getting upset more frequently than peers. These parents are more likely to worry about the long-term consequences of unmanaged anger, including social struggles or school discipline. Alarmingly, 38% of parents say their child has faced real-life consequences from anger, such as fights with friends or physical harm to themselves or others.

How Parents Can Take Action

The good news is that small, intentional changes can make a big impact. Whether it’s modeling healthier responses to frustration, reaching out to schools for parent resources, or exploring techniques like mindfulness and affirmations, there’s no shortage of tools available. Get a good start and learn how to manage toddler anger.