Men Should Spend 9 Months Getting in Shape Before Baby, TikTok Argues

Preparing for a baby often means countless lifestyle changes for moms-to-be. From avoiding certain foods and drinks to meticulously managing stress and staying active, pregnancy can feel like a nine-month marathon of health-conscious decisions. But what if dads were expected to prepare their bodies for parenthood just as rigorously?

That’s the premise of a now-viral TikTok from creators Maya + Hunter that has parents everywhere talking. In the video, Maya’s husband Hunter suggests what he believes to be “common sense” but others may see as advice long overdue: dads should dedicate nine months to getting in their best physical shape before trying to conceive.

“Preeclampsia is tied to men. Morning sickness is tied to men because men build the placenta,” the Hunter explains. (Note: the key here is tied to, as dads aren’t solely responsible for these issues. Conditions like morning sickness and preeclampsia have multiple contributing factors, and their exact causes remain relatively unknown.)

“Fifty to sixty percent of the baby’s epigenetic makeup is because of the man. So if you’re gonna spend nine months following all these rules while building a baby inside you, then I can spend the nine months prior to that not drinking alcohol, limiting caffeine, getting blood work, and eating three healthy meals a day.”

Hunter emphasizes that men prioritizing their health while trying for a baby shouldn’t just be about creating the conditions for a better pregnancy—it should be about focusing on becoming the best partner possible for the mom-to-be. “I will be in the best physical shape of my life prior to you getting pregnant for the betterment of you and your pregnancy and our baby, it’s common sense,” he adds.

The video has quickly gained traction, sparking support from others and some debate. “This is the greenest flag I’ve ever seen,” one commenter wrote. “This might actually be the smartest thing I’ve ever heard,” added another. Others shared their own stories. “So I can blame my EXTREME morning sickness and my EXTREME preeclampsia on my ex-husband,” one commenter joked. “Okay, my husband didn’t spend 9 months, but he spent 3 eating well, exercising, and no alcohol before I got pregnant, and my pregnancy has been a dream. Didn’t even have morning sickness. It’s amazing,” another mom shared.

Some commenters also pointed out that, while a lovely concept, parents should take care not to oversimplify complex health issues. “While this is great in theory, preeclampsia has so many contributing factors that aren’t necessarily tied to the dad,” one user noted. “Epigenetics doesn’t ‘improve’ in 9 months, and that goes for both sides. Genetics play a big role there too. I mean, he has a point, but I don’t think it’s properly covered,” another added.

Regardless of where you land in the debate, this video sheds light on an important truth: parenting starts long before the baby arrives. By prioritizing health and supporting each other through every stage of the journey, partners can set the tone for a collaborative and mindful approach to family life.

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