Lala Kent Reveals Baby No. 2’s Sex and VPR Castmates Reactions

Lala Kent may be unapologetic in how she chose to grow her family solo—the Vanderpump Rules star plans to welcome baby number two this fall after going through intrauterine insemination (IUI) using donor sperm— but she’s far from alone on her journey to becoming a mom of two. The entrepreneur and acting powerhouse has carved out a unique community, from her family to her castmates, fellow moms, fans and beyond, Kent has been showered with support and love during her second, “nontraditional pregnancy.”

In the spirit of sharing her journey with her growing community, Kent revealed the sex of her second child to her Amazon Live family on April 9. Ahead of the event, we chatted with the Give Them Lala podcaster about her feelings on baby number two’s sex, which Vanderpump castmates have been her saving grace, how she’s dealing with all her pregnancy emotions. Plus, check out the must-have products she’s adding to her registry the second time around. Dive into it all here.

The Bump: It’s a girl! Congratulations! How did you feel when you found baby number two was a girl? Did you experience any gender disappointment?

Lala Kent: I had zero gender disappointment. I was thrilled, and I know every single person’s like, ‘I just want a healthy baby.’ But when I did my 20-week appointment with Ocean, and they were starting to talk about how she wasn’t looking right, after that moment, I truly was like, ‘I don’t care at all from now going forward with other kids what I have. I never want to experience a doctor saying to me, this doesn’t look right ever again.’ So I didn’t have any disappointment. As of right now, every doctor’s appointment has gone very smoothly. The baby’s looking good. I’m a little anxious because my 20-week appointment is coming up and that’s the one that I have a little bit of PTSD with when it happened with Ocean. But I just remember finding out and feeling so freaking excited.

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TB: There were so many sweet reactions from the Amazon community today when you made your big announcement. How did your Vanderpump family react when you told them you were expecting?

LK: Everyone gave me such a genuine and excited reaction. Ariana’s reaction was very over the top and I so appreciated that. My brain, Jessica, who literally, I’m like, ‘Are you still there on the phone?’ She was sobbing and squealing on the phone. Everyone has been really supportive. I think the only person—and you guys saw this on Vanderpump Rules—who was a little bit skeptical of the idea was Lisa Vanderpump. But other than that, even though this is a very different way to bring a baby into the world, everyone was so excited and so supportive, and that meant a lot to me because I was very nervous to share that I was going this route even though I knew that it was the right thing for me. And I had prayed on it for many months, if not a year and some change, and it just felt right, but just announcing the news; I was nervous about what people would say, and it’s been an overwhelming amount of support.

TB: Has Lisa come around since her initial reaction? Does she plan to host your baby shower at Villa Rosa?

LK: Yes! Lisa hosted us at her house for a little get-together. I wanted to make it special because this is not a traditional way to bring a baby into the world, and I wanted to add an element of just love and make it personal. Lisa Vanderpump and Villa Rosa were a huge part of that. I never had a baby shower for Ocean, and because of that, I feel like I deserve a baby monsoon, which Stassi and my mom are going to plan, and I just know that I want it at a very chic hotel on a rooftop. I don’t want any gifts, I want nothing. I just want people to show up and celebrate this little human that I’m about to have.

TB: Outside of a chic rooftop and no gifts, what do you want your “baby monsoon” to look like?

LK: I feel like Stassi really knows how to throw a nice get-together. It feels personal, but no one’s bored. There are no cheesy elements, which is fine, I’m down with the cheese. If you want to guess the weight or the baby name, go for it. But I just feel like she is kind of on the same page as me and actually knows how to execute something like that. So I’m going to let her take the reins. I’m not a big decision-maker, which is weird. The Virgo in me trusts not very many people, but I would trust my brain, Jessica and I trust Stassi with this. I’m going to let her do her thing.

TB: Speaking of trust, you’ve spoken a lot about trusting in “your pod” that has surrounded and supported you through this journey. Who are a few people who have really made a big difference in supporting you during this pregnancy?

LK: Obviously my mom and my brother Easton are a huge part of the pod and the consistent ones that are here every day. And then I have to give a lot of credit to Brock and Scheana who have been a huge part of my little orca pod. They really stepped up in a huge way even before I decided to have this baby. Just the way they stepped up in my life with Ocean and made me feel like I had a family unit. There was a turning point in our friendship, and it was when I had to share my baby [Ocean] on Thanksgiving and Christmas, and I just remember Scheana saying, ‘Come to Palm Springs when you can.’ She gave me a sense of stability in a time when I felt like I was from a very broken home and my child was in a broken home, and ever since then, I just feel so grateful even bringing this baby into the world because I do not feel alone when people say, ‘Are you excited to do it alone? Are you nervous?’ I’m like, ‘I feel empowered and also relieved because I don’t really feel like I’m doing it alone.’

TB: When it comes to your pregnancy so far, I know you said you were a little nervous about telling people that you were taking the IUI route. What other unexpected emotions have you run into during your pregnancy and how have you navigated those?

LK: There are moments where I see my friends with their kids and just the unit that they’ve created. And I will say I, it’s not so much for me, it’s more about I look at Ocean and I think about this new baby, and I’m like, ‘I just hope that they’re okay with the way that I’ve structured our life and don’t look at other families and think, I wonder why we don’t have it like that.’ I’m really hoping that they feel comfortable asking questions, but I think that’s one of my bigger fears that I work through. But I know that I’m going to surround them with all the love in the world and I just hope that that’s enough.

TB: When you are dealing with these anxious feelings or the plethora of other emotions that pregnancy brings up, how do you cope? What are your favorite pregnancy self-care items?

LK: I am really obsessed with my skincare and I’m obsessed with my sparkling water. So when I get into that zone, first of all, I’ve surrounded myself with such amazing people that when I do have those emotions that are clearly hormonal and I have no control over them, people around me feed into it. They’re very sweet. They don’t make me feel like I’ve gone mad, but when it’s just one of those hormonal emotional days, I got to crack a sparkling water and take a load off. I would say my sparkling water is what really calms me down.

TB: Have you had any weird pregnancy cravings this time around?

LK: I find it really weird that I crave cottage cheese with tomatoes and salt by the gallon. That’s all I think about, which is very weird.

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TB: Outside of cottage cheese and sparkling water, what are some other things you are stocking up on or adding to cart this time around?

LK: With Ocean, I feel like I went a little overboard and now, with this baby, I know exactly what is necessary and what I can do without. My biggest thing is you have to have a diaper caddy because just having a stationary changing table is not the goat at all. So having stationary where you can pull out the little diaper changing pad, you have all your diapers in there, you can carry it with you from room to room, that is definitely an essential. I love it.

I also don’t know how to do anything creative, pictures I’m going to be horrible at, but I didn’t want to miss out on all these little moments. So the first thing that I ordered was an Inkless Hand and Footprint Kit. It’s easy for moms like me who are not creative, but they want to have some sort of memory. I ordered that with Ocean and it was the best thing I ever did.

And then the onesies. I remember ordering so many things for Ocean, like little baby crop tops, and I’m like, why did I order any of this? They live in their onesies, just like the regular unisex wake-up in the morning. You change 'em into that, and they basically live in it because you really don’t want to leave the house, and you’re just in nesting mode. So I would say those are my top three things. They’re all different but must-haves.

TB: How do you envision your life changing as you go from a mom of one to a mom of two?

LK: I don’t even think I can prepare myself. I just remember talking to Stassi and her saying two kids is no joke and just be prepared. There’s nothing better. But I am tired, so I’m trying to just sink into that and that it’s okay to be overwhelmed. It’s okay to ask for help, and it’s okay to be freaking exhausted and it’s okay to say I need a break from people. Don’t bother me. I just want to really enjoy bringing this baby home and watching Ocean step into a big sister role. I don’t want any pressure. I am obviously working. I provide for my household, so I just don’t want the stress of that. I want everyone to know baby is here and it’s going to consume enough of my time that I want to shut the world out.