Kylie Kelce on the Dos and Don’ts of Talking to Someone Who’s Pregnant

Pregnancy comes with its fair share of unsolicited comments, questions and advice—something Kylie Kelce knows all too well. Now expecting her fourth child with NFL star Jason Kelce, the Not Gonna Lie podcast host’s baby girl has officially “popped,” and, along with her stretchy pants, the unsolicited comments are out in full force. In an effort to save more moms-to-be from awkward remarks about their size or invasive questions about their baby’s gender, Kelce is getting candid about the dos and don’ts of talking to someone who’s pregnant.

The Don’ts of Talking to Someone Who’s Pregnant

1. Don’t Comment on Her Size “This includes comments like, ‘You’re huge,’ ‘How much weight have you gained?’ or ‘Are you sure it’s not twins?’” Kylie says. “I still can’t believe that people think women who are building a human being want to hear anything about their size. News flash—they don’t. Cut that out.”

2. Don’t Ask If She’s Trying for a Specific Sex “Don’t ask if we are going to keep trying for a boy. If another person asks me that, I’m warning you right now—you might get drop-kicked,” she said with a laugh. “I don’t need to have a boy. For some reason, I think you want me to have one more than I do. Four girls strong—watch out, world! We were meant to have all girls.”

3. Don’t Comment on Breastfeeding
“You know what? That is none of your business,” Kylie declared. “The whole ‘breast is best’ nonsense—the only reason you’re saying that is to take other women down. Sometimes, it’s not in the cards. Whether it’s a latch issue or maybe mom has her own medical need where she’s unable to breastfeed, let’s just mind our damn business.”

4. Don’t Share Your Traumatic Birth Story Unprompted
“Do as I say and not as I do because I’m not going to lie—I do ask for this,” Kylie admitted. “I am the person that wants to know every detail of your birth, specifically ones that could be described as traumatic. Because if I go through birth and it wasn’t as bad as that, calling it a win.” But if you’re not asked, don’t just launch into it. Some people might be dealing with their own anxiety and don’t need more added on top.

5. Don’t Tell Her She’s “Glowing”
“The glow you think you’re seeing is my nausea sweats that you’ve mistaken for glowing,” she said. “I’m not glowing. Don’t tell me that. I’m swollen, I’m sweating, I’m nauseous. Don’t tell me I’m glowing.”

The Dos of Talking to Someone Who’s Pregnant

1. Do Ask Her How She’s Feeling
“Let’s be real here: asking this question implies that you know she definitely feels like [crap],” Kylie said. “And you need to make sure that you’re prepared to get her honest opinion and receive that in an open-minded way.” Showing genuine care and leaving room for honesty goes a long way.

2. Do Compliment Baby Names Without Criticism
“If she chooses to share [the name] with you, feel privileged enough that you get to know that information,” Kylie explained. “Then promptly tell them that it’s beautiful and move on. That’s it.” Sharing a name is personal—be gracious, not judgmental.

3. Do Ask Permission Before Touching Her Belly “I still can’t believe that people reach out and touch another person’s midsection without asking permission—specifically when strangers do it. That’s bananas,” Kylie vented. Her rule is simple: “Don’t touch someone unless they have given you permission.”

When in doubt, remember to lead with empathy. Supporting a mom-to-be is all about centering her needs, respecting her boundaries and occasionally, minding your own business. If you are looking for real ways to support a pregnant loved one, consider these tips.