Allison Kuch Spills Her Parenting Secrets and Plans to Grow Her Family

Allison Kucharczyk, also known as Allison Kuch, is just like your typical mom. Five months after welcoming her first daughter into the world, she’s figuring things out day by day and tackling troubles in real time. The only difference? She’s navigating breastfeeding hurdles, jet-setting with a tiny human in tow, postpartum rage and more in front of millions.

Hand-in-hand with her partner and NFL star Isaac Rochell, Kuch is sharing her raw and real parenting journey on TikTok and beyond, drawing strength from the wisdom of seasoned parents in the comments while gracefully deflecting unsolicited advice. Between two cross-country moves and a difficult postpartum journey, this new mom has been through the wringer lately but continues to come out on top. So, what’s her secret sauce?

As Kuch prepared to unpack yet another box in her new (again) California home, we chatted with her about everything from life with Isaac to their parenting three golden rules, plans to grow their family and her latest partnership with DoorDash. And let’s not forget her self-care go-to’s—because sometimes, all you need is a dose of Grey’s Anatomy and a slice of cake to conquer the chaos. Dive into it all here.

The Bump: Congratulations on welcoming baby Scottie Bee! There are plenty of ups and downs in those first few months but what has been the most magical part of motherhood for you so far?

Allison Kuch: I think seeing our daughter just for the first time. Like you love your husband so much, and then your love creates this child, and then you get to see what half of him and half of you looks like, and I think she’s absolutely beautiful. That has been so, so magical, like seeing my daughter. Especially after dreaming of what she would look like my entire pregnancy. And then now she’s like smiling and laughing at things we do. And my husband and I probably look ridiculous with some of the things we’re doing. We’re dancing in front of her; we’re clinging pots and pans together just to get her to laugh, but seeing her smile and laugh is like such a magical moment.

TB: I love that! Keeping the good going, what’s your favorite way to bond with Scottie right now?

AK: I love rocking her to sleep. It is just me and her in a quiet room, and she finds comfort in me. I think it’s something I’ve always dreamed of when thinking about becoming a mom: that she finds comfort in me just like I found comfort in my mom.

TB: Anything over these first few months that you have learned or wish you would’ve prepared?

AK: As a new parent, there are so many things that you don’t know you need until you need them. And you’re like, wait, I need this, but I need it five minutes ago. DoorDash has been a lifesaver when it comes to that. Getting in the car with a baby and a diaper bag and your pumps and a bottle and all is literally an hour-long process. DoorDash has been such a game changer, whether it’s in the middle of the night or in the morning and I need some coffee. It’s been God sent. I think some of those things are just like copious amounts of diapers and copious amounts of wipes. You don’t realize you’re running out until you’ve run out. And then, like a saline solution, when they can’t breathe. You’re like, ‘Wait, what’s going on? She won’t eat her food, and then you’re like, ‘Oh, I need the saline solution.’ So many simple things. And then obviously coffee, like stock up on coffee.

Image: Allison Kuch | Instagram

TB: How does Isaac describe you as a mom? How does that differ from the way you see yourself?

AK: He tells me all the time how good of a mom I am and how intuitive I am. I sometimes feel like I’m just struggling at all times, trying to figure out what she wants. And he’s like, ‘How does it come so naturally to you?’And I’m like, ‘Does it?’ I guess I don’t really realize that it does. But he always tells me that I’m like a super mom. So I appreciate it. I’m like, do I believe it? I’m not sure, but maybe one day I will.

TB: What’s been your favorite part of seeing him as a dad?

AK: Everything. I think the dad-daughter relationship is something so special, and I just love how he loves her. It makes my love for him grow. I mean, seeing how he goes to the grocery store and wants to grab her something too, or he sees something online and is like, oh, I’m going to get her something and how she’s always a thought in his mind. And it’s crazy because that used to be me that he was getting things for, but I’ll take the back seat for a minute.

TB: Do you two hope to spread the love and grow your family beyond Scottie?

AK: It’s funny because before I had our daughter, I was like, ‘Oh, you know, I do love being pregnant, but I could totally see us having one and being done.’ But now that we have her, I’m like, ‘Oh no, I need this at least one more time. And if we can, let’s do it two or three more times. I think it’s just so rewarding, and I like seeing her grow. It brings a different type of happiness than I’ve ever experienced before. So, I definitely want to grow our family. My husband would joke that he wants to grow a basketball team. I’m not trying to do that, but maybe two or three more.

TB: There are so many beautiful parts of parenthood and some really tough parts. What do you think is the hardest part of being a mother specifically on such a public platform like TikTok?

AK: I think there are so many opinions of mothers or caretakers in general with social media. So my husband and I have decided to keep her [Scottie’s] life more private just so people can have fewer opinions on how she’s raised, how she looks or whatever it may be. But, I think just being a mom, I’m so careful with what to share on a very public platform like that, but I do have a little mom group with some of my followers, and it’s like this is a no-judgment zone. I’m still figuring it out, just like any other first-time mom. So when people say, ‘Oh, well, you have all these followers, and you have this platform, it’s like I’m still a first-time mom. I still have no idea what I’m doing half the time. I’m still trying to figure it out. So, all I ask is that people are patient with me.

TB: Is there one thing that you wish your followers understood about your life as a new mom?

AK: I think that because of my husband’s job, people tend to glamorize our life, like, ‘Oh, he’s an NFL player. Like you guys like have it so great. And I’m like, okay, yes. My husband does have a great job, but there are things that we have to do because of his job that impact me. Like us moving around while having to think about putting our daughter first. I hope people are kind with what they say in that regard. But also, I talk about postpartum all the time on my platform. It’s something that I want to be very vocal about because I’m not shy. I’m not one to shy away from being vulnerable. But it’s been so special seeing other women come out, and they’re like, ‘thank you for talking about this. I’m struggling as well.’ If I can help one person, then I’m, I’m doing my job.

TB: I’m sure you get plenty of unsolicited parenting advice on social media. How have you dealt with that, and have you developed any hot takes as a parent so far?

AK: I think because she is so young and growing and changing all the time it’s hard for me to have any concrete hot takes. I could have a hot take now, and it’s going to change in a week, but that’s what being a mom is, like, things change all the time.

TB: With everything changing so quickly, are there any parenting golden rules that you and Isaac try to stick by?

AK: Well, first, everyone’s advice might not work for your baby. I’ve learned that the hard way, just trying to make her adapt to something I saw online or something I read in a book, and she’s just like, ‘No, I wanna do this,’ and I’m like, ‘Oh wow, that would’ve been easier if I just would’ve done that in the first place.’ Two, being patient as a mom with myself. Just because I feel like there is so much pressure on a woman and a parent to be perfect and Scottie doesn’t need someone that’s perfect. She just needs someone to look out for her best interest. And then third, oh my gosh, I would say enjoy the small moments.

Image: Allison Kuch | Instagram

TB: So when it comes to the end of the day, you’ve been moving and playing and feeding Scottie all day. How do you recharge? Any guilty pleasures?

AK: This sounds so weird, but—my husband probably already knows what I’m about to say—I love watching reruns of Grey’s Anatomy. That is my safe space. It’s how I unwind at night. I’m like, ‘Okay, the baby’s down, the dogs are fed, everyone’s good. I am going to go and lay in bed and watch, like, an episode of Grey’s Anatomy that I’ve probably watched 20 times over,’ and it is the most relaxing thing ever.

TB: I totally get that! I’m a big comfort show person, and I always have a snack while binge-watching my favorite. What’s your go-to pairing?

AK: At the end of the day, I am a big sweets person. So I am DoorDashing sweets, whether that be ice cream or cookies. I’ve DoorDashed an entire cake before, and I’m like, ‘Oh, like I’ll just have a few slices, you know, like anything to treat myself.’ I am a huge sweets person. And, um, there are so many options on DoorDash. I’m like, I can try out one of everything. My favorite is Newsy’s Cakes. It’s so good. My husband is like, ‘What is this whole cake doing on our counter?’ I’m like, ‘It’s for me,’ haha. Like Mother’s Day is every day when you treat yourself to a cake.

TB: Speaking of Mother’s Day, I know you said in a recent TikTok how you were hoping for some flowers Dashed to your door. Are there any other non-material things you’re hoping for? What does your perfect Mother’s Day look like?

AK: I think once Scottie is older, this will be easier, but I want breakfast in bed. I think it would be so cute if Scottie helps her dad make pancakes or if she drew me a picture or something. I want to wake up to food. And, like, that’s all I’m asking. Like, whether that food be DoorDash, or it be homemade, or you had to DoorDash the ingredients, I just want food when I wake up, and I want a good coffee, and I want to, like, watch TV in bed when I first wake up.

*DoorDash is giving away a chance to win free babysitting for a full year to one lucky mom! Plus, one mom in every US state will receive one well-deserved day off. For more information on how to enter visit DoorDashSweepStakes.com/MothersDay.